If you are blaming a slow metabolism or bad genetics on being overweight, then you are limiting your ability to get lean. In fact, blaming a circumstance for anywhere you are in life takes away of lot of your power. The less you blame and the more you take personal responsibility, the better results you are going to get. This applies to anything, not just weight loss.
[Do what it takes to overcome obstacles. The alternative is coming up with tons of excuses and never reaching any of your goals.]
A “Tough Love” Wakeup Call!
Some of you guys who are reading this are experts at making excuses. I’m not trying to piss you off (well maybe a little). I am certainly not putting myself on a pedestal…I used to be an expert at excuses as well. I had a well devised “story” that would explain where I was in life.
What Do You Tell Yourself? Here Was My “Story”…
People who are deficient in a certain areas, typically have a story behind it which justifies their position in life. For me, I was living with my dad after college because I was swamped with student loans. I lived with him for quite a while and used this monetary reason for justification. It was okay and expected for a couple of years, but after 5+ years…this story just didn’t hold up (but I kept telling it to myself anyway). I was powerless to move out, until I refused to accept that excuse anymore. I killed that story!
One Thing I’ve Learned From Managing People
I have managed a suit store for over 6 years and have probably hired and trained a total of 200+ people. The biggest difference between my best employees and the ones that weren’t so good is that the “high achievers” always took responsibility for the outcome. The “below average” employees blamed circumstances outside their control when performance was poor.
The Mind Can Justify Anything
We caught an employee stealing from our store a few years ago. Not only did this woman feel zero remorse, she actually was pissed that we were firing her over it. I have also watched documentaries in which serious criminals who have killed people, have a story they tell themselves that makes them feel that they were doing the right thing. Your mind will begin to believe anything you tell it, especially if you use the same excuse over and over again.
The Whole “Metabolism” Thing Is Real, But…
Yes, there are people who have slow metabolisms. You may have a slow metabolism. If you use that as part of your “story” for being overweight, you will never slim down. Will you have to work longer to get lean? Yes! Will you have to eat a cleaner diet? Yes! You can be mad at the skinny person who eats whatever they want -or- you can take a different path to get lean as well.
The Massive Benefit of Overcoming an Obstacle
As soon as you drop one of your major “stories” and put in some action to achieve a long-time goal, the easier it becomes to achieving another goal. A naturally lean person doesn’t gain that same valuable experience. Honestly, as soon as you reach a tough goal…it opens up your world.
Best Clip on Quitting…
[I have put this in here before, but this is a classic. Lance Armstrong overcame some serious obstacles!]
Note: Get this weight loss thing out of the way. My hope is that it will build confidence so you can move on to bigger things. Although this is a fitness site, getting lean and healthy really is just a good start to a bigger journey.